No thank you.
Wow, that was a the shortest Tiny Tidy Tip in history!
Ok, there IS more to it than that… But not much.
Often people give us things that they don’t know what to do with, can’t be bothered to take to an op shop or go to the trouble of selling or feel too guilty to throw away.
They can be hugely generous and loving and feel a deep need to give things to you.
What ever their motivation you’re going to have to have a conversation with them about it.
- With love and humour explain why you don’t want or need the gift they’re giving you. If they need a solution to where to take the thing they’re trying to foist off on you make suggestions.
- Negotiate with Persistent Gifters. Loving gift givers often give to make themselves feel good. Tell them what you DO need or want instead.
- Make sure Forceful Gifters know that you will find a new home for their gift, immediately if they still refuse to stop. Show them that you don’t have room or already have enough. Explain WHY you’re no longer accepting everything that’s given to you.
- Use your goal of sustainability or minimalism as an argument against Competitive Gifters. Like Persistent Gifters, tell them what IS acceptable.
Sometimes the upset, discomfort or distress that some Gifters cause is a sign that the relationship is not a healthy one. Pay attention to their reactions. Make healthy decisions about contact with people who do not add love, joy or positivity to your relationship with them.
Stand up for what you believe in, with bravery, love and kindness in your heart.
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