Free Cr*p & Food Samples.
(Don’t you love the tricky insertion of that little star instead of a letter? It always makes me ladysnort whenever I see it, I know what that word is… everyone knows what that word is. But somehow it makes the use of rude words ok. Or at least less likely to spark outraged emails!)
We all have good intentions. Losing weight, less screen time, keeping the house tidy forever.
Sometimes we know we need to say NO instead of YES when we really really want to say YES. (Yes I mean cake. All the cake).
Or not doing something you want to do, to focus on something that you need to do. It’s called…. wait for it… Self Discipline.
Ugh. Yuk and bleurgh. It’s such an unfashionable word. It reeks of hard core training, cold showers and stiff upper lips. But it is actually completely awesome. It’s the thing that helps us get stuff done.
It doesn’t require you to be feeling on top of the world.
It doesn’t require you to be in the mood.
It doesn’t require perfection.
You’re doing Self Discipline when you just start (the ironing or a morning walk when it’s cold). When you stop (after one dumpling sample at the supermarket…Liz!). When you say no (to free plastic water bottles and branded doohickeys that get handed to you willy nilly). When you get out of bed to clean your teeth even though you’re so tired you’ve put your jammies on inside out.
You’re already Doing It. I’m doing it by writing this blog twice a week, come rain, hail and hot sunny days.
You’re already primed to Get Stuff Done. You are secretly a Self Discipline Ninja. You did the dishes. Wiped the benches. Put the rubbish out. All before collapsing on the couch to watch Master Chef.
So why did you do those Ninja Moves? Because you knew that your future self would HATE YOUR GUTS for being a lazy a*se. Your future self would have to deal with it in the morning when the kids won’t put their pants on, you realise that the milk container that someone put back in the fridge is actually empty and cat has been sick right in the middle of the living room carpet.
Micro Mindset Shift! You ARE a Self Discipline Ninja. An Expert in knowing how to get yourself to get stuff done.
You are doing it for you. For the satisfaction of having a family that looks (mostly) put together. To avoid a crappy morning of bad tempers, shouting and sticky stuff transferring from the kitchen bench to the library books.
That’s why you go to the trouble of training your kids to pick up after themselves. Why you say a very grateful and gracious NO to people unloading their crap… umm… decluttering on to you.
It’s why we study, exercise, journal, see counsellors and practice new dance steps, even though it’s hard. Because our future selves will be happier and we will be proud of ourselves.
This is really useful knowledge. It puts things in a different perspective. You are seeing into the future (in a non woo woo way) when you make it a habit to put things back where they belong. It’s one of the best anti-stress hacks EVER.
So say thanks to your past self for putting a repeating reminder in your calendar to get extra milk every Saturday morning so you could have a sleep in on Sunday.
Self Discipline is just you, looking after your future you.
This changes everything!
Bye for now,